Roommate Relations

Finding A Roommate 

Roommates are an essential part of your living experience on campus. Our first-year students have the opportunity to connect with other Gators using RoomSync, a third-party roommate matching app. When looking for a roommate it’s important to start with building communication.

Building Communication
Good relationships are built on communication. Begin building good communication by spending some time getting to know each other. Taking time to listen and talk to each other at the beginning of this relationship will help get the year off to a good start. Below are some questions to help connect with your roommate.

  • What are your hobbies/interests?
  • What’s your major/field of study and ideal job?
  • What are your expectations for the year academically and/or personally?
  • What are your beliefs/values?
  • What is your class schedule like?
  • Describe your ideal study environment/habits? Can you study with other people in the room?
  • What are your thoughts on guests of either gender and appropriate times of visitation?
  • What are your attitudes towards alcohol and drug use?
  • What are your expectations regarding room cleanliness? How will you divide basic housekeeping duties?
  • What have you learned about roommate relationships from previous roommate situations?
  • How do you deal with gripes and tension?

Remember to always communicate openly, directly, and immediately as issues arise — each roommate owes the other the courtesy of speaking to him/her first. Don’t put off problems; delayed discussions can lead to explosive problems that become more difficult to resolve. Use our four steps to resolving a roommate conflict as a guide.

Create Connection and Establish Standards of Living 

Whether you have known your roommate for life or you are meeting for the first time, you both are new to UF and living on campus. Create opportunities for shared experiences together. Check out events in your residence hall, visit places around Gainesville, be sure to try out some new activities together. Having these connections and experiences will help create lasting memories of your experiences. Sharing a room is a learned skill. The relationship skills you build now will serve you later in relationships, friendships, business, or social settings.

We want you to have a successful and positive roommate experience. Resident Assistants meet with roommate groups at the beginning of the semester to help establish the group’s standards of living. During this conversation, you will complete a Gator to Gator agreement. You and your roommate have the opportunity to discuss many topics: the temperature in the room, sharing items, guests, etc. We encourage roommates to have an honest conversation about their needs to help develop a guideline of how they plan to live together. Once established, the Gator to Gator agreement assists in maintaining these standards throughout the time living together.

Navigating Disconnections and Differences

It’s natural to experience disconnection or differences with roommates. Navigating these situations can be challenging and we are here to help you be successful in resolving conflict.

Resolving a Roommate Conflict

  • Speak to your roommate(s) directly. State issues neutrally. Relay feelings. Offer resolutions. Be prepared to listen. Be willing to compromise.
  • If you and your roommate are unable to resolve the conflict ask your RA to intervene by meeting with all involved roommates. Their role is that of a neutral party coordinating roommates to resolve the problem.
  • If further intervention is needed after meeting with the RA, the Area Coordinator will meet with the roommates and serve as a facilitator in resolving the conflict. At this time, roommates may be asked to sign revised Gator to Gator agreements. If the resolution is not met through these levels, formal mediation will occur. Our area staff may also assist with any room transfer requests.